many species communicate. they growl. tweet. click. squeak. squak. we’re the only ones to speak. verbally communicate. humans. humans need to share their stories. it’s not being able to share your day with someone that makes you feel lonely. or sometimes, families pass down stories, just as various cultures around the world, have their oral traditions.
people still tell their stories, but mainly online, where they’re shared with populations of folks who know you super well and others who are six degrees-related. someone "likes" your comment, they then befriended and perhaps followed you.
whether it’s the “oh my god” pal, or the TMI aunt, everyone has a story to tell, and sometimes we pick and choose who we report to based on our comfort levels. motivational speakers often rely on personal stories when they speak before large audiences; and platforms like LinkedIn, encourage recommendations from peers where those who know you and your work are asked to tell their stories about working alongside you.
telling stories is powerful. more and more, marketing is calling upon honest, real stories. society as whole begs for it. we want to learn more about others’ struggles. others’ views, no matter how closed minded and bubbled everyone may seem on the surface, they still want to listen to others. the desire to connect and relate to others is palpable.
this is why when someone is victim of sexual assault, everything goes out the window. the course for storytelling becomes extremely limited. the power in the abuser, is the ability to strip the storytelling away from the innocent victim. who can they tell? who would do anything? who would believe them? would their career be ruined for something that happened to them? if the victim isn't silenced by someone else, they're certainly silencing themselves from fear on many levels.
alabama’s roy moore has recently been accused of sexually assaulting a teenager(s) when he was a thirty year old accountant. those who defend the judge are saying either “this was so long ago” or “it’s just a left wing smear campaign”. when accusations of sexual assault came to light about louis c.k., some made excuses similar to moore's supporters. depending on the abuser, society is quick to make its decision. its judgments. the same person who may defend moore, may not support louis. louis c.k. quickly wrote a statement on the heels of a ny times article showcasing his masturbatory offenses, whereby he admitted his guilt and said all stories were true. he validated the victims' stories. he returned their naturally given power.
because more victims are coming forward, the powerful, and often rich, american influencers of society are falling, as victims’ stories are finally being told. and as we’re also seeing, accused abusers’ nearingly deafening silence, speaks volumes. essentially, silencing someone through sexual assault is worthy of an additional charge akin to kidnapping.