Why Tough Love Doesn't Work Anymore
the true deep fabric of our society is a horrendously grim and torturous one. the "tough loving" our society continues to give itself over and over again, is not only beginning to backfire, it serves no purpose in an environment struggling to defend and protect rights. the "suck-it-up, honey" mentality, expressed over the past few hundreds over the past few hundreds of years, is no longer being adopted nor listened to. silencing victims is tired and the power dynamics are shifting.
tough love doesn't work anymore since society elected a bully into office. a president who distinctly pulls triggers and silently blows dog whistles. he has made no effort to apologize, go back and view his wrongdoings or even study up on his history. before his inauguration, he had plenty of time and resources to figure out what he was actually getting himself into. had ample time to sit down with barak and study. he chose not to. he opted to surround himself with those who'd best direct and guide him. but now, it's october and a vast majority of those given such positions to advise and support, are gone .
tough love no longer works because fear is no longer an option. tough love no longer works because the bottom has fallen out on compassion and if events and situations call for it, the opposite is no longer required or received. society realizes "locker room talk" actually isn't okay or forgivable. it leads to harvey weinstein. it leads to abuse and harassment. tough love isn't progressive. it offers nothing other than shame and isolation. it's not as much a "tool" of the "real world" as it was once made out to be.
oh, people will still attempt to utilize tough love. the president of the united states will certainly continue to employ it because that's what he's used to, being our nation's eldest elected president (after ronnie). but it's not working. humans have evolved emotionally and the normalization of shame and abuse is on its way out.